I've benefited from my conversations with Dina about the Middle East disaster, and then I found this post on Gaza at Feministe. The post itself is well thought out and presented, and the discussion is mostly the same.
In the end, I think I can distill my position down to this: Israel has to stop retaliating and escalating for the simple reason that it will be to their own detriment in the end. It doesn't work. They have to look deeper and be smarter and undermine the propaganda and hate mongering, because any other way lies madness.